Tuesday, September 12, 2006

14 Steps To Develop Patience

  • Dwell on my troubles and aches and pains.
  • Think I'm always right and win people's approval for everything I do.
  • Think that I always know what is best for people.
  • Think that because people disagree, they are unreasonable.
  • Think that all the unpleasant things happen to me.
  • Think that ambition and what I want are all-important.
  • Expect people's temperament, character and behaviour to be what I like.


  • Recognize that the more I dwell on my troubles and pains, the worse they seem.
  • Recognize how impossible it is to please all the people all the time.
  • Recognize that I cannot always get people to do what I want as a matter of course.
  • Recognize that people are entitled to their opinions.
  • Recognize that everybody has off-days.
  • Recognize the danger of expecting too much from life, myself and other people.
  • Practice mindfulness of my mental states and outside phenomena.

With Metta,

Bro. Oh Teik Bin


Anonymous said...

this is so true. i didnt realise that i am becoming a demon already. You posted it just the right time - just on time to shrink the demon in me. Sadhu! Hearing the Dhamma really heals! Sadhu!

Bro. Oh Teik Bin said...

I am very happy to learn that there are still people who can see the Dhamma which is essential for one's true happiness, peace and freedom ...